Overhaulin'

has anyone been this heartbroken before??

ok heres my story i was 17 and this 29 yr old beg to marry me and wrote me poems and song and told me he alwyas gonna be there fo me no matter what and i fell in love with him and give him 100% trust, he promised i was gonna beable to go to college well to keep him happy i end up workin 2 jobs trying to pay most of the bills and then 8 months later he started to treat me bad cuase alot of bills was coming and he was stressin, well i got into this bad car accident where my car wen under a semi trailer, ad he wasn there for me , put his new car sales man job be4 me didnt want to take me to the hospital! so i left cus i was shocked and i left, next day i tried to work thing out he didnt want nothing to do with me, then i found out i waspregnant and he didnt care wither, well after 7wks ihad a miscarrige, we've bin separated for 2 months and he dont want nothingto do with me! he backstab me, how can i get over this? does karma really happen? will he get punish for this?

Public Comments

1. Did he see the way you write before he told you you'd be able to go to college? You got used and abused. Plain and simple. When you meet someone who treats you better (which shouldn't be too hard to do) you'll wonder what you ever saw in him.
2. I wish you comfort and healing, friend.
3. Yes, I do believe what goes around comes around. He treated you terrible and someday someone will do something to hurt him too. For now just try to concentrate on yourself, and dont even worry about him. Just spend your time trying to make the best out of things that you can.
4. Just forget him!!!He's not worth for u...U deserve some1 who really loves you...Just dont think any bad things to him. Let him free...Dont mind him back stabbing you...Just be 'ur self start a new life and follow 'ur dreams w/o him...
5. Well first of all, I am so so sorry for your loss. That is a very sad story. You will get better with time, I promise... time heals all kinds of wounds. And yes, I have been heartbroken like that before. Not the exact same story of course... but equally tragic. You are not alone in going through a time of deep sadness. I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel! I do believe in something like karma. I think that the fact that so many cultures mention something like karma (ie eastern ideas of karma, pop phrase "what goes around comes around," Christian value that "you reap what you sow," etc etc), is an indicator that it's sort of a universal truth. It's just how life is. He'll get what he deserves in the end. Don't worry about that any more - you're not in control of it anyway, and worrying over it will only make your days less enjoyable. Don't give him any more power over you, by letting worries of him consume your time. Instead focus on who you are, on creating and fulfilling your own destiny. Leave him in the dust behind you, and move on to something better. If you believe in karma, all the more reason to act positively and earn the good life that you've always wanted. I'm sorry again for your loss. Best of luck to you in the future!
6. I dont mean to be horrible, but you can thank your lucky stars that you had a miscarriage. He is not father material and had you have had this child, it would have caused you nothing but pain and sorrow. You are describing a typical abuser. An abuser will woo you with sweet words. He will treat you like a princess to lull you into a false sense of security. Once he has won you over, then the chase has ended. He got what he wanted.....he won. I dont know if Kharma will get him or not, but something will......a person who lacks character will always come undone. As much as it hurts, nothing stays the same. In time you will get over this horrible phase in your life. You will become strong and learn by this. Just imagine if you stayed with this guy, it would only be time before he started bashing you around. You are lucky....it didnt get to that point. Maybe you saw the light before it got to that stage. Just be thankful you will not end up a statistic of another woman killed in a domestic violence situation. Take a deep breath and thank your lucky stars you are still around to experience the wonders this life has to offer. Your mind is the only thing that will stop you from moving on and experiencing happiness you never dreamed possible. Mark this up to experience, grieve, then move on with your life. There are wonderful men out there who have the same values as you.....who will love you like you deserve.....who will treat you like a princess. Those men are really out there, so dont let this experience blind you to the fact that not all men treat their women so badly. You are a survivor and you need to feel relieved that you are free to persue the life that you want. You are free to find a man who will love you like you (and we all) need to be loved. Thank God you saw what a jerk he was before he ruined your entire life.
7. Think positive.You are out of a very bad relationship and the worst man on earth.Thank your stars that you are finally free of the torture he would have given you.Now you are absolutely free and can start life afresh with a new attitude.Never look back,and forget all that you had with him.All the best in life.
8. Is not about good or bad karma!:...it´s about good or bad choosing... Obviously being 17 and this guy 29 was one of the reasons, and then follow all the others. If he´s punished or not isn´t a big deal of a difference. Your priority isn´t his life but yours. Getting over bad stuff is easier than everybody think,..You need to think what you´re gonna do with the rest of your life. And start doing things the best way it´s possible. You can always recover from a bad dream, but if you think in getting even, punish him, curse him, whatever, then you´re wasting time and energy in something you accepted from the beggining anyways. If he´s a loser that´s his story..You can start by making a new one out of his life and start choosing right ,,,Go after your dreams but first learn to separate the good dreams from nightmares....
9. been heartbroken three times so yeah! you aren't alone. Am yet to learn not to trust too soon and too much. i say good riddance! he is not a man worth your while.
10. Hey riya listen what he has done that is wrong and if you are always right in your path in your life and if you deserve that he should be punished then trust me he will be punished. In this world no one can escape from the punishment of God. But what I want to tell you is that just listen to what your heart says and just follow what is truth then trust me you will be the same happy girl with you are before but if you do not deserve to be happy in the eyes of God maybe because you may have also hurt someone very severely in your life who doesnot deserve the sadness you have given then remember you can never be happy or else if you deserve to be happy in the eyes of God no one can keep you sad forever in your life but my friend it is easy to say follow the truth but it is hard to follow. I follow it thats why I know how hard it is. Ok. Take care my friend. Bye