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How do you pick up the pieces and move on? is there hope for the future?

How do you pick up the pieces and move on? is there hope for the future? ok heres my story i was 17 and this 29 yr old beg to marry me and wrote me poems and song and told me he alwyas gonna be there fo me no matter what and i fell in love with him and give him 100% trust, he promised i was gonna beable to go to college well to keep him happy i end up workin 2 jobs trying to pay most of the bills and then 8 months later he started to treat me bad cuase alot of bills was coming and he was stressin, well i got into this bad car accident where my car wen under a semi trailer, ad he wasn there for me , put his new car sales man job be4 me didnt want to take me to the hospital! so i left cus i was shocked and i left, next day i tried to work thing out he didnt want nothing to do with me, then i found out i waspregnant and he didnt care wither, well after 7wks ihad a miscarrige, we've bin separated for 2 months and he dont want nothingto do with me! he backstab me, how can i get over this? does karma really happen? is there achance he will be back??

Public Comments

1. If you married him, I'd suggest a divorce or an annulment at this point. For a man NOT to attend to his wife in the middle of an accident speaks volumes of just how much he loves you. Drop him girl, you deserve better. You're still young and there are a lot of better men who deserve your love.
2. truthfully, u can sue him for the money you supported him with and probably win. or just let him get whats coming to him. People who treat women that way usually get discovered by a clever girl and then its all over. So, the choice is yours, if i were you , Id freakin sue his ass off!
3. WHY WOULD YOU WANT HIM BACK, my god girl u deserve to be treated better than that and if you dont realize that then you need some serious help, mental health type of health, cause you have no self esteem, you don''t need a dirt bag like this
4. Why would you want him back. You have to realize that these things happen. There are a lot of people out there who will tell you lies and hurt you. Sometimes though a person may really think that they love someone and with time they discover that they don't. Love takes time. Yes there is hope for the future. Somewhere out there is a person who will love you and who is deserving of your love and respect. Hang in there.
5. Get rid of him He sounds like a loser to me. But divorce him before you make any kind of settlement over the accident. He may try and claim some of it. You have supported him long enough!!
6. Even if there was a chance he'll be back, I wouldn't take him back. And use birth control if you ever sleep with this guy again because you definitely are better off not being pregnant with his child! I am sorry about your miscarriage but you are asking about him and there is only one answer - he is bad news. You have more going for you in life than the need to be treated badly. Even if he turns on the charm from time to time, when he feels like it, you are a person who deserves better than that. The only way you will realize that is to leave him out of your life and get out and date and regain your sense of dignity and self-worth. I'm sorry, dear - I know what it's like to be head over heels in love with a toxic individual. It doesn't get better.
7. You are in love with a user and yes, it will hurt a lot but it's better to go through the hurt now while you are young. The pain will go away with time. He's been using you for money and lots of other stuff too. Even if he wants to get back together, why would you want to spend the rest of your life with a selfish man? And selfish men are likely to be abusive. You are stronger than you give yourself credit for. If you were able to work two jobs, you can make it on your own. Give yourself time before jumping into another relationship. Work through the grief of this one first and focus on yourself and your education for awhile. There is plenty of time and no rush to make quick decisions now. You will never be able to trust him anyway. Did he lie about other things too? I bet he did. Good luck. Take time for yourself and hang in there. You will be ok with time. Try counseling if you can or speak to a trusted adult or clergyman. Contact an attorney about the accident and keep a diary of your aches and pains and doctor's visits and medications.
8. I can't believe the little you love yourself, as a person and as a wife that you are. Is that kind of man all you can get in life?, haven't you at least heard of something better than that?. I have absolutely no clue why you expect something like that to come to your life. If you don't get into another relationship which is the best, because you will go for what you think you deserve and end up with the same kind of man, being by yourself is by far the best that can be happening to you until you finally get a good perspective of what you can find in life. You don't love yourself, I don't know what is the reason but you expect so little for you and chose very wrong to have a father for your child or future child, that's very iresponsible as well. You should be going to college at age of 19 and not into a relationship and you should be on your way to be finishing college, that's a better life for you, the less you should be worring is about that guy, you should be celebrating.