Overhaulin'

has anyone this heartbroken before? how to get over this?

ok heres my story i was 17 and this 29 yr old beg to marry me and wrote me poems and song and told me he alwyas gonna be there fo me no matter what and i fell in love with him and give him 100% trust, he promised i was gonna beable to go to college well to keep him happy i end up workin 2 jobs trying to pay most of the bills and then 8 months later he started to treat me bad cuase alot of bills was coming and he was stressin, well i got into this bad car accident where my car wen under a semi trailer, ad he wasn there for me , put his new car sales man job be4 me didnt want to take me to the hospital! so i left cus i was shocked and i left, next day i tried to work thing out he didnt want nothing to do with me, then i found out i waspregnant and he didnt care wither, well after 7wks ihad a miscarrige, we've bin separated for 2 months and he dont want nothingto do with me! he backstab me, how can i get over this? does karma really happen? is there achance he will be back??

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1. Hunny its hard i know but trust me u are better off without him. First off i know age is just a number and all but 29 is a little old for a 17yr old. To really get over it u have to move on and find someone else that should help. Karma does truly happen belive it or not he will get his. I am really sorry to hear bout your misscarriage i just had one my self so i know what your going threw their. Good luck and please for get bout that loser.
2. Rhea, you need to file for divorce and then you need to move on. I'm sorry about your car accident and miscarriage, but I know that you'll be okay. You just need to file for divorce and start dating other guys once the divorce is finalized. I understand that you don't want to give up on your marriage, but your marriage is a dysfunctional one and you need to get out of that situation ASAP. Look sweetie, you're still young and you can still go to college while getting your date on with other guys and gaining more life experience.
3. Oh, my he is one major jeck. The best way to get over a bad relationship is to focus on getting a education (college even if it is one class at a time--or a loan). Focus on yourself, learning something new, a sport or hobby. The more you focus on the future, the quicker you are going to be able to be happy again.
4. KARMA? how about common sense forget him and move on
5. Sadly today a lot of pressure is put on women to also earn a living, since life just seems to be getting more and more expensive. This desire for a better life takes its toll in so many ways, causing one or the other to lose respect for the partner. One has to take a moment to reason rationally. MAybe you didnt show him respect and men desire respect and when they dont get it from a wife, they withold love. The marriage begins a crazy cycle. She thinks he doesnt love her and he again wont say "I love you" because shes mad at him all the time. I am so sorry for you for your accident and the way your man is behaving is not only childish but silly. He feels bad and guilty about the way things turned out. He always had good intentions for your lives together. If you find no way out of this mess with him, it might be time to sue for divorce, however if you love him and care for him, then you will have to soften your attitude towards him and hold no scores of wrongdoings against him. Thats a tough one but it can be done. Our feelings tell us we dont want to forgive, but common sense tells us we must forgive if we want to get over the bad feelings and emotions. Love is faithful, love is kind, love is good. Love holds no record of wrongdoings and it doesnt act unbecomingly either. Love is missing very much in your relationshsip. You will have to show him love and forgiveness if you want to truly win him back. He is scared and cannot face you. You have clearly shown him anger so now he is avoiding you. DOnt bad mouth him, dont show anger CHOOSE NOT TO! Be kind sweet and loving, that way you also heap coals on his head! You can do this if its what you really want. Start praying for him. Buy the book THE POWER OF THE PRAYING WIFE and apply it. Watch how things turn around. You dont need to believe in silly Karma. You simply need to trust God with your man!
6. There is the dance of courtship and he really did a dance with you.He is 29 and you are 17. Go to college, its not to late. Stay busy and nurse your broken-heart..Life goes on. You have all the time in the world to repair your broken-heart. I have band-aids on mine. Love will find you again and now you know what you don't want, try and figure out what you do want in a relationship.
7. There are few people who marriage there teen-age loves and of those the percentage is also high that it ends up in divorced. So what happens we set new goals for ourselves. While achieving those goals we end up meeting the love of our lives. A person who respects and loves you back would have made sure that you persued your dreams of an education, not made you worked to help with the bills. A person who truely loves you would have been at your side every minute they could have been when you were in the hospital. Yes, the person might have gone to his job, however there are time at night they could have been there, there is no car sales man jobs that are 24/7. Do you really want this man again??? Seriously think, he didn't give a toot about your being pregnant and having his baby. He didn't make the extra time to see you at the hospital, He didn't try to help you so you could go to school even it that meant going to a community college. This isn't a man who loves and cares about you it's someone who is stuck on themselves and either ride the wave with him however when your down and out her throws you overboard.
8. I'm sorry for your pain I know from experience it hurts I Know this may sound really stupid but, Time heals all wounds and you are better off with out him ,when you find someone to treat you like you deserve to be treated loved and respected and you will { we all think we wont when we feel like you're feeling right now}You will It's worth waiting for and it usually happens when we least expect it.
9. why do you want him back? build your own karma.... forget about others....
10. You need to realize this man is not good for you and everything happens for a reason. The right guy is out there for you and waiting for you to find him but you need to get this other guy out of your head. Any man that would not take you to the hospital after an accident if not worth the air it takes to say his name. You are better than that and you deserve alot better so remember the good times with him and get on with your life. You will be better off the sooner you get over him .