Overhaulin' - how do u buy a gift for your husband when....?

how do u buy a gift for your husband when....?

u have a joint checking acct with direct deposit, u share one car, and are always together. Is it even possible? we can see where transactions are made or how much money is getting used and with one car we are usually together. He says he doesn't want me to buy him anything for our 5th wedding anniversary /valentine's day and i want to ......... but if he doesnt want me to ....... how do i sneak money and go buy it.? and what if he gets mad cause i bought something anyway? i can't win oh and any ideas on what to buy? i was thinking something engraved saying happy anniversary! 5 years and counting... what do u think?

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tell him you have to buy bras @ a dept. store - that way the charge won't show what it's for just where it came from
Try ebay.
If you dont want him to know, then you need to shop for a gift at a store that you frequent. That way it doesnt look unusual. Men dont need much. He would probably be happy if you bought a sexy nighty for a romntic evening.
don't you have a friend that could take you while he's at work?
Well, the next bank statement can come up missing, can't it? lol ask for the car and tell him your doing it rather he likes it or not. so what if he see's how much it cost. Just do it.
Maybe you can make him something home-made? Or you can take out cash at the ATM and then buy it for him? I don't know how you money situation is - but just remember that you don't have to spend a whole lot to show you love him!!! Get creative...
We are very clear and simple when we speak. He does not want you to buy him anything, period! Don't read too far into it. It's plain and simple! Don't buy him a damn thing!
Don't buy anythin. He isn't into it an it will be a problem,He isn't getting you anything.
Hunny, why don't you make it part of your usual list of this to buy, I did that before, now I have mine, he has his, and the there is a joint account. But I used to get things at different times during our shopping times, he didn't realize until everything was together.
Just tell him you need the car to do a little shopping by yourself .... unless he's completely stupid (or a control freak) he'll know what you are up to and know you need some time to "go shopping" for the gift. I would STRONGLY suggest ditching the engraved item. Buy some sexy Victoria Secrets stuff and then WRITE the "Happy 5th Anniversary....." With a countdown from 5 (in between your breasts) to number 1 being just above your hoo-haa !!! Use a bright red lipstick for the writing.... or red body paint. It won't cost as much - and TRUST me he'll like it a HELL of a lot more than some engraved trinket.
Your gift could be to make a special day for him without spending very much. Pack a picnic hamper with food and surprise him; lay it on the floor and the two of you can imagine that you are away somewhere if the weather is not agreeable. Have fun without spending money. Get creative!
Well..I find myself in the same situation time after time.. I personally go online and look for stuff that I can order..that way I can really surprise him.. I think men say they dont want anything cos they dont want us to spend money on them..but I think it would be a good idea to surprise him with something special on a special occasion such as this..something that you both find meaningful.. Ideas...hmm...I like willow tree figurines..cos each one is handcrafted and carries a special message..for various occasions.., if he is into electronics, u cud buy him something that he has really wanted for a while..You would be in a better position to judge..cos ur with him and would know his likes and dislikes..
gee I know you dont think so but I view that as a sucky marriage, everyone needs a little bit of space every once in a while. Why dont you buy smoething and return it to get the cash and then buy his gift. Does he let you go anywhere by yourself? good luck
You can buy something on line or you can take out cash and have a friend buy a gift for you. do you have a credit card? does he like sports then buy him some tickets to a sporting event trust me he won't get mad
Tell him you need to go to the mall. While there buy yourself some sexy lingerie and some massage oil. On his birthday get dressed in the lingerie and give him a sensual massage. You both win, both ways!
Go out w/ a gf of yours and go to a atm so he doesn't know what what you are buying or where you went. Also the engraving idea is great on me & my husband's 5th anniversary I did the same thing b/c at that point I was out of ideas of what to get. good luck
When you go grocery shopping write the check (or use the debit card) for $10 more for a few times and stash the cash until you have enough for what you want to buy. You can do this on any debit card transaction or check purchase. :-)
hey listen go to wal-mart or some store where the charge will not show what you bought and do something sweet like get a 6 dollar thing of message oil and suprise him with a full body message and he will love it.
Your husband said that he didn't want you to BUY anything for your anniversary. He did not say that he didn't want to celebrate the occasion. Maybe you two should plan out a nice meal to make at home, and then plan to do something you both enjoy, finish up the day with some intimacy. It's not about what you buy, it's about spending time with each other, laughing and being loving. The last thing you want to do is connive a way to wangle some money from your funds to buy him something when he's against the principle. I wouldn't celebrate your anniversary by going against his wishes and doing something you know he does not want.
ask to borrow the car then go withdraw about a hundred bucks and go shopping by yourself. he doesn't need to go everywhere you go. you have every right to withdraw if it's a joint account and if he gets mad, just ignore him because you have every right to buy him something for your anniversary. hope he gets you something!! get him a bottle of his fav. cologne or a new movie he's been wanting to see, or, you can even make reservations at a nice restaurant instead of going shopping and have a nice romantic night out.
Well since he said that he doesnt want you to buy anything i wouldnt buy him anything.... BUT if you HAVE to... this is what i do for extra cash.... i go to buy groceries and when i use my credit card... it askes me if i was money back... i click "yes" and pocket about $20 buck and my hubby thinks it was spent on food.... I slowly do that by $5, 10 ect.... but the man doesnt want anything... make a nice big dinner or go have a nice picnic...
My husband and me have a join bank account. I don't drive so my husband takes me everywhere but sometime i will walk. If i have to get my husband a present i will use a card to pay for it but i don't tell him what it is. if he is around me i just tell him i'm going to look at shoes and he never come over to found me there because he knows how i'm with shoes. if you can't get out to the store to buy your husband something just order stuff online and keep track of how much you spend and let your husband but don' t tell him it's for him tell him you want to start christmas early or i wanted to buy the kids .something. i shop online if i can't get to the store of can't get away from him and when i do order something online i tell him it's for someone else. when i take money out for the week i tell him it's for my nails but really it's to get him something.
Tell him you are anyway so youre going out by yourself and taking some money out so he doesnt see where its from. Stand your ground woman!!
Write him a poem or a love letter. It's free and it means more than any gift that you can buy at the store... and you can write it whenever you want. I usually do this for Aubrey and I keep them in the drawer in our bedroom. Sometimes I get them out and read them again.
We all say we don't want anything, but we really do,.... just get him something big and something stupid, and give him the stupid one first, and see his reaction...lol
Ah, all those fun things of early marriage. You know have yourself a nice dinner by candlelight with soft music playing while you still have no kids...it will be nice to look back on as you'll be about 80 the next time you get to do it! LOL My husband and I never combined our bank accounts. Good thing too as it probably spared us a LOT of fights over the 18 years we've been together! LOL