Overhaulin' - 32 and never dated, is it to late?

32 and never dated, is it to late?

Hi everyone. I've been really really depressed lately. I'm 32 now and I have this problem called never having a girlfriend and still being a virgin and loosing every friend I ever thought I had as a result of it. I feel so jelous and pissed off every time I go out and see young couples smooching and holding hands! Or yet some high school punk in his beat up honda with a coffee can muffler cruising around with some hot girl! I just want to yank his *** up and beat the **** out of him and say what makes you better then me! I know that's the wrong additude to have but 20 years of being told that your not good looking enough to be boyfriend material has broken my give a damm!!!! From middle school thru high school to co workers, to friends, friends of friends, to blind dates to online dating so on and so forth for over the past 15 years I always got the same rejection over my looks. I've always thrived to be a good person and treat others as I would like to be treated. I've always offered my complete and total friendship to anyone that needs or wants it, and it has all back fired on me. I can't get thru a day without wondering how my life would be today if I had meet someone 10 or 15 years ago. And I can't lay to rest thoughts of the good times and sweet memories I should have of my youth with someone special that isn't there but only the memories of how I was always told I wasn't cute, good looking, or attractive enough! But every pretty boy Tom Dick and Harry treated them like **** and they loved them just because they was pretty boys!!!! It's hard for me to even look at the guy in the mirror every morning knowing that I've never even been accepted to go on one single date, never been kissed, never had a warm hug and hearing words like I love you. NOTHING! The differance from me and people that wants to kill themselves is that most people have to try to think of ligit reasons to do it. I have to try and think of one reason not to. People I used to consider friends have nothing to do with me anymore because of this and how I don't get ***** everyday like they do. I've been called every name in the book and a new book started. Gay, queer, even pedofile because I've always had a warm spot for kids and used to dream of the day I became a father and the fact that I've never had a women in my life people judged me totaly wrong. Two summers ago I was living in Nashville Tn where I was training to be a railroad engineer. At the same time I was working on one of my car restorations of a 1987 Trans Am. I had just got the paint and graphic work done and was going to drive it back to my home town of Kingsport to let everyone see it. I called up Brian and Mike that was old high school friends and told them I was comming in. They made plans to meet me at circuit city. They made big jokes of my black and gold TA with the big eagle on the hood and ask who are you suposed to be Burt Reynolds? I just laughed about that but I didn't know they had set me up to get me in the store and away from my car so they could have there way with it. They knew how much time, work, and money I had in this thing and what it ment to me and the paint job wasn't a week old. They took red spray paint and painted the words *** boy, queer, and painted a big dick over the bird on the hood. They recorded the whole time on cam making slurs about me and what a looser I am being a virgin and never had a GF! When I came out and seen my car I feel to my knees and threw up right there in the parking lot, I was so weak at the knees I could not stand! I've since lost all faith in people and the future. I feel I'm already dead it's just my body still walks around empty with no sole. Just to answer some questions, I'm not fat I still weigh 147 as I did when I graduated high school. I've always been active and come from a slinder family. I'm 5 foot 10 blue eyes and light brownish hair kinda like Tom Cruise's style. As for ways I've tryed to be the cool cat thru the years, I studied music, voice and guitar thru my early teens and was lead guitarist in a rock band in high school. Took 4 years auto machanics and got into restoring classic muscle cars all thru my 20s as I still some what do. I built a 1972 plymouth duster that I used to drag race and won placks and trophies with before it was stolen in spring 2004 and found striped out 3 months latter in Virgina. Total loss there. I've since went back to college and am now an engineer for CSX railroad. Would you say my window of opportunity has long since shut at this point of my life???? And could someone please tell me where I went wrong and what I have done to deserve this???? Just if you wanna see some pics. http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewPicture&friendID=170902874&albumId=407995 There is more pics in my photobucket just look for T_TopBandit, you can also IM me on yahoo messanger at T_TopBandit

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You certainly don't LOOK 32. In fact, you look like you're pushing 45 :/ Sorry, but you seem to have a really warped idea about what's fashionable and what isn't. I mean come on dude, what's with your HAIR? :/ If you want my honest opinion, you need some counselling to get your confidence back up and you also DESPERATELY need a personal stylist to give you fashion tips - not to mention help with your hair. You look like a cute guy, you're just hiding under some 40 year old man get-up :/
its never to late
you look decent to me cuz i'm still a teen. Why don't you go on blind dates? it's fun. If you have a sister, she can easily help you with that. Looks like you enjoy your life and women will want to talk to you more. Wear cool clothes; not bad-boy clothes, but clothes that look good on you. Maybe change your hairstyle too. Just give yourself a makeover. And guys who do bad things to you are not good friends at all. GOOD LUCK!
ABSOLUTLEY NOT. Age is no barrier and i believe that everyone has a pair in this world but it may just take a little soul searching to find out where and who they are. i would advise thinking about why is it that have not had a girlfriend?? and what can i do to change my attitude towards dating, because it sounds like you wont find anyone when your attitude is the way it is now. These days you can use internet dating and things like that. i hope you find your one and only :)
i didn't read all of this, it's waaaay to long...look dude, there are some really, really, really fuggly people out there in the world, and I see them walking around, pregnant and/or with kids, so I know someone is having sex with them. I looked at your pics and you're a cute guy. Maybe you should take a long hard look at your personality and attitude. We don't see ourselves like others see us. Invest some time scrutinizing yourself be honest with yourself. Maybe see a therapist too.
because youre not good looking and by the look of this letter it seems you dont have much of a social life no offense but ya it can be too late like my stepmom lol but the good thing is you look young for your age but alot of people dont like swearing and jealousy also you seem self centered with your pic captions you also look kinda petifilish so u might wanna change your look idk your personality but if its like that idk if your personality would be saying obnoxious things and making jokes that arent funny and make people around you very uncomfortable than that could be the reason idk but ya
I think your very atractive and look about 20 not 32. I find it very hard to believe that you have never been on a date. I sure can tell you that if I was older I would totally consider you. Are you a shy guy? Maybe thats why, but there is nothing wrong with the way you look. And for the guy that did that to your car, I wish I was there, I would have walked up and kicked them so they could never have kids again. Or get a girl for that matter, because most "hot" guys only get girls because of their looks, and when it comes down to it, their hooks.
ok find an online group that has to do with a hobby! talk to your best friend! don't commit suicide! but I know you won't. there comes a time, like around your age, where no one gives a damn about looks! Yes you can find someone and you're a healthy weight and you know 2 other good places to find someone? church and a gym! Just find something like that or a ski club and get really involved! once a new girl comes and says oh so you've been doing this forever! tell me the ins and outs? you have a chance! Just keep with it and ask people for advice BUT DONT WASTE YOUR CASH AND TIME ON AN ONLINE DATING SITE! They aren't really safe and don't really work. Good luck! message me I can help! also ever see 40 year old virgin? good movie and you're not even there yet! just get some friends that don't know you're e virgin. some cool nice ones that wouldn't care. you can also take sex ed. besides there are some helpless girls out there too and they might be at a sex ed. and who kknows they could be really cool just like you!
lol i don't know why people are saying you're ugly or that you look like a pedophile. you look and sound like a decent enough guy. you just really need to update your look and maybe get some counseling to help with your self confidence. there is still time for you! you are only 32.
Ur cute ... only thing I see is that you maybe need a more updated haircut.
I'm sure it's not as bad as all that. I assume you called the cops on your "friends" and they've been tried and forced to make restitution, so you can rest confidently that your stood up for yourself and justice was done. If you have a decent job, you're one step ahead of me, and I managed to find a wife though online personals, one who has remained loyal to me for the last five years. I suggest you try that. You're definitely not unattractive enough, even with your 'stache, to be forced to live alone. I suggest you get on Match.com or similar and start living. Don't discount Asian girls either, depending where you live, because they don't look at appearance and fashion as much as whether you'll be a good provider for her children and don't embarrass her in front of her family by being loud or obnoxious.
In my opinion, it's not your looks, you look fine. It's never too late to meet someone, and as the other poster said, ugly people find mates all the time. But the attitude/personality needs work. Maybe a counsellor or something to get you past the self-confidence problems? You seem to be obsessing on the past, how things might have been in high-school, showing off to jerks you knew from high-school.You can't rewrite the past, and dwelling on it won't help you now. "People I used to consider friends have nothing to do with me anymore because of this and how I don't get ***** everyday like they do" seems a little harsh, how do they know what you are or aren't getting unless you are talking about it WAY too much? Also, if these are 'friends' like the jerks who vandalised your car, you need help in picking friends better. You're good looking in kind of a Charlie Sheen way, you've got a decent job, maybe some help in toning down the self-pity will improve your chances.
lmao wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this is dramatic omg trust me i've seen some guys so ugly that they look like their parents are GODZILLA AND KINGKONG and they have chicks all over them so idk maybe u really need a personality checka nd u need to stop looking so hard and also sorry to say but ur dressing is atrocious u would look way better with some tan and cut that fuking jiggly jello looking hair off now thats just wrong and old dude like wtf is up with that and comeon its never too late ur just 32 and maybe ur closed minded so u go looking for only one type of girl and so u get ur heart s h i t on just get a personal stylist some psychological help and u'll be hot so go 'em tiger btw u need to see SUPER MODEL BEAUTIFUL HEIDI KLUM HUSBAND his name is seal look him up