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Need advice on a family situation that now involves attorneys.?

My grandmother has been stuck in a nursing home even though she probably doesn't need one. My dad S, is the oldest with 3 siblings. About a year ago they all went to court because the middle brother M wanted a guardian. My dad's theory was that there should be a third party handling the money since there is over $10,000 a month in oil royalties that is supposed to be going to her. M hired a very expensive attorney to fight to retain custody, and I should mention that he and his wife swindled her mother and 2 brothers out of a lot of money and she dies penniless, literally. M does not care about his mother, he has called her a stupid B****, told her he wishes she would just die already, and last week it got very cold and he would not even spend $20 on a blanket for her. He has to drive about 35 miles to see her and brings her $15 a month to get a perm, no other money. Every trip he charges the estate about $750 to see her. What concerns me is that my dad's youngest brother D took all of my grandpa's classic cars after he died and retitled them in his name. My dad's sister G stole tons of stuff from the house, as well as her kids. And M stole the oil royalties. G has a restraining order against her for abusing my grandmother by nailing her room shut and locking her in rooms. From what my mother tells me, the police refused to prosecute, and that doesn't surprise me, D seems to be a loudmouth always in trouble with the law and his son is a 10 time loser and convicted sex offender. It seems like everyone is crooked up there, and I can't figure out why the police won't prossecute even though there is proof that she has violated the restraining order multiple times. Everyone is hiring attorneys except my parents and is now pushing to probate my grand dad's will, why? Also the attorney they have is as old as my great grandmother, and is always demanding more money but keeps delaying the court date. There was supposed to be an emergency hearing to remove M as guardian and instate my dad in March of 2008, then May, then July, then September, and is now on for January 30, 2009, an EMERGENCY hearing taking 10 months? Also M is givng my grandmother pills that no one knows what they are as well as giving her cold suppresants that her doctor has specifically said could kill her. What can we do? It seems like my mother is part of the problem too, telling my fiance that she regrets meeting my dad and how horrible his family is (however hers is worse), and the other day she said that it would be nice to have only even $50,000 of her money. HELP PLEASE!!

Public Comments

1. Sounds like a mess. Some one needs to get a new lawyer and get this ordeal straightened. out. There is enough serious issues in the family to exclude some as even having a say in what goes on. When my mother passed away, she left two of the siblings as executors. They did nothing the will said to do. They wanted to give Moms house to my older sister. Everyone signed the title but me. When asked why I wouldn't sign it, I plainly stated that is not what the will said to do. I let a lot of things go buy and I wish I had contested the will now. Not because I wanted anything Mom and dad had but wanted to do what Mom and dad ask us to do in respect for what they ask us to do. You should make your mind up that whatever you do, you will never have you family back the way they were so do what is right and forget what they say. Someone needs to find a lawyer who means business.
2. There is nothing you can do. Only a lawyer can help her now. There has to be someone out there that you can trust to help. Inform the lawyers of the situation, but money does this to people. I feel terrible for her poor thing. What goes around comes around. They will soon reap what they sow and they too will need assistance one day soon, hope someone is as merciful with them as they were with their mother!
3. You need to ignore all this. It is really none of your business and seems like it would give me a feakin headache. Leave it up to your dad and what he thinks is best for himself. He sounds like he is doing what he can. It is a shame that family comes down to this when there is money involved. I would not waste my time trying to come between them all. There is really nothing you can do.