I'm a young guy, 23, reasonably attractive, outgoing, and all that, but I move around a lot on trips, new to the area, and am LTR orientated; my divorce was a year ago, and since then the adult dating life is new to me. I try to stay positive by recognizing that the women I meet even though they are horrible matches, have at least provided me with something unique, or interesting, and the experience alone has been worth it... What I'm trying to say is in the subject of relationships it's hard to be anything but optimistic; in the bars and online dating women are hit on by so many men that it's like buying from a used car lot, no matter what the thing you pay for will be over priced and have hidden parts ready to break down, and at any possible freaking moment will blow up in one's face. Oops, I'm getting off subject - have you tried the online speed dating? I thought maybe it'd be better. I hate online dating websites, but maybe with the focus being less on the disillusions of abstract profiles and more just direct face-to-face contact, it may bring the human element back into the picture.