Overhaulin'

If I send his car to the Junkyard, will that make me a B****?

Ok, so my husband and I are getting a divorce. It was mutual, but he is currently deployed and has allowed me rights to moving all his things back home to our hometown at his parents. The problem is my family is coming to help me move and they don't want to be around his parents. They have offered to help and their options sound extremely reasonable, but the problem is this. He has this rusted up, beat up, non-working and no tires on a 76 Malibu. It would be a total gut job and he would be extremely lucky to save the frame from all the rust. Anyway, I don't think he'll ever work on it and wouldn't be worth all the money to put into fixing, but he is obsessed with keeping this car. Also in order to get help from his family we'll have to pay $600 just to have them help us and get the haul to put the car on the moving truck i've already ordered. If they come up separately to avoid my family we'll have to get a separate truck and pay closer to $1,000 and I've come to the conclusion that even though we have the money to do this it's not worth it. I've been busy with separating our things and doing all the packing which is work enough and i'm tired of being all frustrated about this Malibu. I can't store it anywhere cause we don't have the legal title for it b/c the family friend we got it from 2 years ago still hasn't sent it to us and we don't have a signed bill of sale either! Anyway, it's just been so frustrating figuring out what to do with this p.o.s. and i've come to the point where I just want to have it hauled away to the junkyard(which is free!). Would I be a bitch if I just have it taken off and tell his family when I drop his furniture and boxes off??? I mean I've been more than considerate with doing all the packing and taking his stuff to his parents. Why should I keep kicking myself over how to deal with this Malibu???? He still has a working car for when he gets back and I will have my own as well, so I don't see the point in dealing with it anymore. Yeah I've given him the options and the money it could involve and my family not willing to move the car and such. I told him this morning but haven't heard back from him(it's hard being on different times with deployment). The only problem is we've been pissing around with this for about a week or two already b/c right when I think we've got it taken care of something changes or an option falls through without having legal papers for it. Now I've got to be out of the apartment by Thursday and i'm stressing and just ready to junk it!!!

Public Comments

1. If you are able to communicate with him about the car tell him what the options are...1) get his family to come over and get the car when your parents arent around or 2) get him or his family to pay the $600 (because the way I see it is the car is not yours but he wants it) or 3) if he doesnt respond by a given time...make it reasonable like a week or 2...that it will be hauled off. Dont just haul it off with out talking to him or one of his family members. Just because you think the car is a P.O.S it seems that it is his pride and joy. If I were in your shoes I wouldnt put up a dime for that car and the moving of it. OR, last option...if they dont come to get this car and his crap then just leave it there...not your car, not your problem.
2. First of all, the junk yard can't take it without the title (legally) Second, you once loved this man and something went wrong and now the two you are getting a divorce in which you both mutually agreed to. Your husband, he is still your husband until you get those final papers has asked you one favor, as unreasonable it sounds to you, but for some reason not to him. You said that the money isn't the problem. Do this for him. He is deployed and doesn't have wife to come home too. Don't take one from him, too. Think of it as a parting gift. He will always remember you for it. If you do get rid of it, you will always be that B*tch! Do this one act of selflessness for him. You will get payed many times over for this selfless act. Let me ask you, don't you want to have a clear mind? If anything did happen to him while he is deployed, God forbid, but if anything did happen to him, you will never be able to forgive yourself for not doing this one thing. It would always haunt you! Do it for the man that is serving his Country, so that you and all Americans, remain Free! Do it out of the Goodness of Your Heart. It is worth the Money to set you Free! When he does come back, you can always ask him to repay you. If no, make it part of your settlement, but, please don't junk the car. It may be nothing to you, but it seems to mean something to him. You don't want to be kicking yourself if you don't! Please, get his car home waiting for his return. I just want to Thank You ahead of time because I know that you are not that B*tch! ~End the stress and haul the car to his parents home - Your stressed, because as much as you would like to junk it (No title - can't) you know that it would not be right thing for you to do.